Relationship Advice, Sex Tips and Techniques, Sexual Health, Uncategorized

Look AMAZING in Lingerie!

Lingerie_WebWanna know what one of my hottest selling items has been lately?  It may surprise you… Lingerie!  With a market saturated by large chains specializing in this product, you would imagine that my Pure Romance business wouldn’t do much lingerie volume.  Maybe it’s because us Pure Romance girls know how to make you feel comfortable and confident in your own skin.  Read on for tips on how you can looks your best in your least…

Lingerie adds a fun and exciting element to any bedroom encounter- both for the person wearing it AND for the person enjoying the view.  If you really want to get your partner’s temperature to rise, you’ve got to build a closet of lingerie that not only makes you look good, but makes you feel good too.  You can’t just focus on being sexy on the outside, you’ve got to feel sexy and confident on the inside too!

  1. Functional can be FUN!  Unless you are only doing a photo shoot, lingerie needs to be comfortable.  The best pieces of lingerie will be comfortable AND pretty.  If the fit is right, you will look amazing without restricting your movement or breathing.  After all, movement is what you are going for, right?  Make sure that you are getting the right size.  You can use this chart to help figure out the best styles that will fit and flatter your body.  Once you’ve found the fit you love, look for shapes and colors that make you feel the best in your own skin.
  2. Compliment your Assets!  If you’ve ever tried on lingerie in a larger chain store, you know that not all lingerie works for all women.  We are all shaped differently.  And that’s a good thing!  Rest assured that there is a style of lingerie out there that is perfect for you.  Different styles draw attention to different areas of the body, so make sure that you choose a style that highlights the areas of your body that you find the sexiest.  Proud of your luscious curves? Babydoll gowns show off your bust and flatter just about any shape. Think you’ve got an amazing booty? Give your lover a peek of what’s to come with a form-fitting chemise. Considering a jaw-dropping striptease? A black garter slip, revealed after peeling away your everyday layers, can do no wrong. Take this as your lingerie rule of thumb: If you feel amazing, you’ll look amazing, and vice versa!
  3. Put YOURSELF first.  YOU wear the lingerie.  It does not wear you.  If you do not feel sexy and confident in your skimpies, then what is the point?  While it can be a great idea to shop with your significant other and keep their wants in mind, it is most important to please yourself first.  Buy what you love!
  4. CONFIDENT IS SEXY!  Whether you are a guy or a girl… confidence is sexy!  Nothing will boost your confidence like knowing that you look smoking hot in some new lingerie.  This is your time to let your partner know that they hit the jackpot when they met you.  It’s okay to be a little self-conscious, but don’t be afraid to step outside of your comfort zone a bit to show yourself just how amazing you really are.
  5. Don’t make excuses- HAVE FUN!  Don’t talk yourself out of investing in lingerie that will add excitement to your sex life. Too often we hear people second-guess a decision to purchase lingerie because of a fear that it isn’t a wise purchase. Wrong! Good lingerie is an investment in yourself and your confidence … not to mention your sex life!

    Just remember, when you are shopping for lingerie, never forget who you are buying it for! Feeling sexy and confident in every situation is your own personal gift to yourself. Seductive lingerie can give you the chance to feel sexy and bring your wildest fantasies to life. So don’t skimp—allow yourself to treat yourself.

Of course, you could just see all of the Pure Romance line and have an amazing time with friends if you just book your very own Pure Romance party!  I am in the Lexington, Kentucky area and have a few open dates for the next couple of months.  Contact me asap to get your preferred date on the books.  Parties are free, fun, educational, and my hostesses earn some AWESOME rewards!  Who knows… you may even want to become your own boss and join my team.

Relationship Advice, Sex Tips and Techniques, Sex Toys 101

How to Introduce A Sex Toy Into Your Relationship

Pure Romance Sex Toys

Every relationship is different.  Some are more adventurous than others.  That’s okay.  Maybe you are interested in spicing things up a bit but you aren’t quite sure how to introduce a sex toy into your relationship.  It can be a scary idea, but if you go into it with the right mindset and focus on a strong relationship, you too can turn your bedroom into a playland!  Here are a few tips on how to get started:

Communicate with your partner about your ideas and desires.

Communication is the most essential part of any relationship.  Any issue involving intimacy should be discussed openly to maximize closeness and understanding with your partner.  Your interests and desires in the bedroom are no exception.  Don’t be afraid to express what turns you on.  Don’t hesitate to express your hesitancy with any subject, either.  It can be a little intimidating talking to your partner about it for the first time.  Try making it part of your “pillow talk”, and start with a statement like “I think it would be really sexy if…”

Share the toy shopping process with your partner.

This is both a communicative step with your partner and a FUN thing to do to!  Your new toy needs to be something that you BOTH will like.  This is also a great low-pressure way to break into the subject.  Don’t be afraid to have fun with the process.  If this is your first time using sex toys together, it’s probably a good idea to start small and work your way into it.  Luckily, we have an AWESOME website you can look at together to see a full selection of toys and vibrators that you can both enjoy!  You can also contact me privately and shop directly from my full inventory.  What’s my most popular couples toy?  That would be Jelly Tool Belt.

Start slow with a sensual massage.

A great way to introduce a little “buzz” into your night is to start with a slow and sensual massage. Start with your hands and slowly work the new toy into the mix.  The pulsations will help soothe tired muscles and send you to a state of blissful relaxation. Once the vibrator becomes a regular part of your foreplay, try moving it … lower.  You can really maximize your massage experience with some of our great massage products, too!

Take turns and share your toys.

When using a new toy together, take turns. Half of the fun is SHARING!  Let each person experiment with different hot spots on the other’s body, and guide each other’s hands to the spots that feel best. And keep communicating and checking in with your partner. A simple “Is this good for you?” or “Do you like when I …” can go a long way toward making your experience truly mind-blowing!

If you have any questions about a Pure Romance product, CALL ME!  Of course, the best way to see all of the great products we offer is by booking your very own Pure Romance Party!  Click here to contact me NOW!  Or maybe you’ve been to a party before and want to become your own boss?  Click here to JOIN MY TEAM!


Relationship Advice, Sex Tips and Techniques, Sexual Health

Proof that Spooning Improves Relationships

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Never underestimate the power of touch! Cuddling, massages, hand-holding…we girls just can’t seem to get enough!  Guys too, although they may not be as quick to admit it.  But does loving physical contact after sex actually improve a relationship?  And can you actually prove this correlation?  Science says YES, and I say HOORAY, SCIENCE!

Some recent research at the University of Toronto Mississauga shows that a little post-nooky spooning can help improve your relationship.  The study, published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior, shows that “kissing, caressing, and loving talk” after intercourse are all associated with greater sexual and relationship satisfaction.

Kat Van Kirk, Ph.D., a licensed marriage and sex therapist, says that the chemical oxytocin is likely the main driver behind this phenomenon.  Oxytocin is often referred to as the “love hormone”; it’s released as a result of pleasurable physical contact and has been shown to increase bonding. Staying physically close after sex can also act as a form of nonverbal communication. “It can help you relax, inhibit any sensations of pain—emotional or physical—and help reinforce to your partner that you are invested and committed to them,” says Van Kirk.

Other benefits include the simple fact that closeness can lead to more sex. “Cuddling can help keep you aroused for another roll in the hay,” says Van Kirk.

The study had some interesting results regarding who benefits the most from post-sex cuddling.  Couples with children has the biggest results, likely because of limited time for cuddling with each other during the day.  Women, in general, exhibited a larger benefit than me in the study, though men did report a noticeable improvement in their relationships and sex lives, too.

So you’re probably wondering.  What it the perfect amount of time to snuggle with your partner?   Aim for more than 15 minutes—that’s what the people in the study who said they were happiest with their relationships did.  Personally, I think that 15 minutes is simply not long enough, but hey, science, amiright?

Relationship Advice, Sex Tips and Techniques, Sexual Health

Sexy Foods and Surprising Aphrodisiacs

Did you know bananas are considered an aphrodisiac? Maybe that’s why the Chiquita lady is always smiling!  Bringing sexy back might not be as difficult as you think. Plenty of foods contain aphrodisiac powers, and we aren’t talking about rare spices you can only find by hiking through a forgotten rain forest in South America. Some very common foods can help you get in the mood.


The Romans believed the avocado’s egg shape made it a natural fertility aid. (With reasoning like that, we’re surprised the empire lasted as long as it did.) But modern science now tells us there’s something to the theory: Avocados are packed with Vitamin E, which helps produce sex hormones including testosterone and estrogen. That means these little green beauties can help boost arousal and intensify orgasms.

Chile Peppers

Turns out, eating hot can get you hot. Chile peppers contain a compound called capsaicin, which gets your blood pumping, well, everywhere. A pepper’s heat increases your heart rate, and your brain responds by upping your endorphins to fight the burn. Your body does a few calculations; adds up the blood flow, endorphins, and increased heart rate; and thinks it is aroused. How’s that for an excuse to make tacos?


Consider the shape of a banana, and there’s no doubt why they are one of the world’s sexiest foods. Suggestive shape aside, bananas are a great source of potassium and Vitamin B, which are essential to sex hormone production. Maybe that’s why the Chiquita lady is always smiling.


Like the avocado, the egg is an ancient fertility symbol with real-life aphrodisiac properties. Eggs contain L-arginine, an amino acid that ups your nitric oxide to dilate your blood vessels, the same as many sexual dysfunction drugs. Plus they contain Vitamins B5 and B6, natural mood enhancers. Breakfast in bed just took on a whole new meaning.


You say “tomato,” I say “Are you trying to have sex with me?” Tomatoes, aka “The Love Apple,” contain potassium that enhances muscle control and vitamins that relax your nerves, helping prepare you for intimacy. Who knew marinara could be a turn-on?
Foreplay never tasted so good. Add a few of these aphrodisiac gems to your grocery list, and you’ll be satisfied after every meal.
Massage, Relationship Advice, Sex Tips and Techniques

How to Give a Sensual Massage


Massage is a great foreplay technique for couples looking for a way to get close. Unfortunately, many people are intimidated by giving a massage because they are afraid they’ll be bad at it. After all, it’s not as if you learn this stuff in school. Try these tips and techniques for giving a sensual massage.

Find a quiet place.

In-home massage is like real estate: Location is everything. Pick a quiet spot where you won’t be interrupted by the kids, the dog, or any other reminder of the world outside of the massage. This intimate time is meant to be an escape, so do everything you can to keep reality from crashing the party.

Set the massage mood.

Atmosphere is vital to sensuality. Relax your partner with low lights and quiet music. Candlelight adds an air of romance and emits a soft glow that will flatter both of your bodies. Just don’t go overboard with the candles. Nothing kills the atmosphere like chirping smoke alarms.

Dress the part.

Put a sensual spin on your night in by wearing something sexy. Women: Try wearing one of your partner’s button-down work shirts and nothing else, or some barely-there lingerie. Men: Invest in a nice pair of boxers that will show off your body and let you have some skin-to-skin contact with your partner during the massage.

Warm up.

Run your hands under warm water or use hand warmers  so you don’t start the massage by giving your partner the chills. Have your lover lie face down while you stand behind their head and lightly stroke down their back on either side of the spine. On your way back up, gently caress their sides with your fingertips.

Use massage oil or lotion.

Few things in life are really win-win propositions, but the right massage oil will benefit you both. An oil or lotion decreases friction, allowing the hands to glide freely down the body. Not only does this feel amazing to the person receiving the massage, but it also allows the person giving it to rub longer without their hands tiring out.

Increase the pressure and the pleasure.

You’ve got your lover primed and ready with some light touching, now it’s time for a deeper massage. Follow the flow of your partner’s muscles as you apply a bit more pressure with your palms. Focus on commonly tense areas like the shoulders and the back of the neck. To really relieve your partner’s tension, let your hands drift to the fun zone.

Take a sexy turn.

Your hands are all over your partner’s body, so now it’s time to kick things up a notch. Try playing by soccer rules: massage with anything but your hands. Kissing, licking, nibbling, and nuzzling are all allowed. Watch your lover quiver with delight and see where this hands-off approach takes you.

A good massage isn’t about perfect technique or having a medical license—it’s all about intimacy. Reach out and touch your partner gently, and you are sure to satisfy.